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6 Win back your brother


Gospel
Matthew 18:15-20
If your brother listens to you, you have won back your brother

Jesus said to his disciples: ‘If your brother does something wrong, go and have it out with him alone, between your two selves. If he listens to you, you have won back your brother. If he does not listen, take one or two others along with you: the evidence of two or three witnesses is required to sustain any charge. But if he refuses to listen to these, report it to the community; and if he refuses to listen to the community, treat him like a pagan or a tax collector.
    ‘I tell you solemnly, whatever you bind on earth shall be considered bound in heaven; whatever you loose on earth shall be considered loosed in heaven.
    ‘I tell you solemnly once again, if two of you on earth agree to ask anything at all, it will be granted to you by my Father in heaven. For where two or three meet in my name, I shall be there with them.’

 Reflection
Jesus offers a profound blueprint for reconciliation that prioritizes the dignity of the individual and the health of the community. Instead of resorting to gossip or harboring resentment, we are challenged to seek direct, private communication. The goal is never to "win the argument," but to "win back" a brother or sister. This process reminds us that our relationships on earth have eternal significance; what we bind or loose here resonates in heaven. Ultimately, Jesus promises His presence in our collective efforts toward peace, assuring us that when we seek unity, He is right there in our midst.

 Reflection Question
Is there someone in your life you have been speaking *about* rather than *to*, and how might a private, loving conversation help restore that relationship?

 Prayer
Lord Jesus, thank You for the gift of community. Give me the courage to seek reconciliation and the humility to listen with an open heart. May Your Holy Spirit guide my difficult conversations, turning conflict into an opportunity for grace. Remind us that whenever we gather in Your name, You are there to lead us toward peace. Amen.

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